Saturday, June 22, 2013

Pregnancy And Hormones - Looking At How It Affects Issues, Emotions, And More


Everyone knows that pregnancy and hormones go hand-in-hand. That emotions will go haywire and swing wildly all over the place. What no one talks about is what's really going on behind the scene. No one talks about "why" the hormones trigger things like anger, resentment, and other negative emotions.

First off, you need to understand that pregnancy is a MAJOR change. It brings with it a thousand new sensations, new emotions, and a great deal of fear. Fear that we won't be good parents, fear that something might happen to the baby, and countless other such fears. That alone, hormones aside, is a lot for the brain to process and deal with. Add that to the physical changes and is it really a surprise that things get a little nuts?

The problem is that people can take advantage of the situation and use it as a time to unload or vent. While hormones will cause tears and emotions that can't be explained or defined, what it can't do is re-live old issues. That's all stuff that existed long before the hormones entered the scene and has little to do with the hormones.

What does happen is that hormones, like alcohol, lower our inhibitions. Unlike alcohol, the inhibitions that get lowered due to hormones are more connected to emotions than actions. In other words hormones lower our capability to deal with the issues that we carry with us all the time.

That means that hormones don't create the resentment and anger, they simply make it harder to hide them. The hormones bring those negative feelings closer to the surface where they are more likely to be triggered. The good thing is that this presents a unique opportunity that very few people ever take advantage of.

Issues in general are things we spend huge amounts of time and energy to hide within ourselves. This allows us to be able to lie to ourselves that we don't have these issues in the first place. However, to maintain this lie we have to continuously spend time and energy to keep them hidden. During pregnancy we need that time and energy to handle all the changes happening with our bodies. This then weakens our defenses hiding the issues and we begin to see them.

Unfortunately, we live in a world where we have convinced ourselves that it's not appropriate to have feelings or emotions. That it's not okay to show weakness of any kind for almost any reason. This is not only a huge pile of garbage, it is massively detrimental to life itself. If we were not supposed to have feelings and emotions we would not have been born with them.

This is also another reason why hormones trigger these emotions and issues. Pregnancy and hormones go hand-in-hand, remember? That means we can unleash all of those pent up feelings, emotions, and issues without consequence. We get to unload and vent and then claim that it's "hormones" and we're not responsible for the outcome. The plus-side to this is that we can hopefully let go of some of the smaller issues during this process. The down-side is that it can put a huge strain on your relationship if the issues are related to your partner, etc. It can also make the issues that remain bigger because they were triggered and seen.

As I said before, this all presents us with a unique opportunity that very few people ever take advantage of. Instead of being justified in unleashing those issues, why not take the time to actually deal with them once and for all? Issues don't just go away because we looked at them once or twice. It takes a lot of work and effort to truly deal with them.

However, if you can lessen them, accept them, or otherwise diminish them you get to free up the time and energy you were using to hide them. Doing this during pregnancy is like winning the lottery three times.
1) You don't have to fight just to get to the issue before you can begin to deal with it.
2) You get to free up huge amounts of energy that you need to be able to fully live your life.
3) You get to do this at a time it's very difficult to do - meaning everything has much, much more impact.

Dealing with issues when it's easy means nothing - it's easy! Dealing with issues when it's hard is what you have to do to be able to actually deal with them. Once you do deal with them you get to become a fully functional, capable human-being. Right now the issues exist because you don't think you are capable of dealing with them. If you can become a fully functional, capable human-being you can deal with ANYTHING!

How much better would your life be if you felt capable of handling everything that comes your way? So if you're pregnant and having mood swings, don't fight them. Allow them to happen and take a good look at what's going on with you. Talk to your partner, your friends, or your family about what you feel and experience. By talking about the issues you don't have to punish people with your issues - which means less stress and hardship.

It also means you get to deal with those issues and be able to free your life from them. Then when baby comes you get to become that fully functional human-being. Yet, even more than that, if you're a fully functional human-being you also get to teach your kids how to become one too. Isn't that much better than teaching them how to become issue ridden robots afraid to live life?

The key to remember is that you are not in it alone. There are many, many people out there that can help you deal with individual issues, fears, anxieties, etc. You don't need to do everything at once or rely on only one or two people to help you get through it all. Each step forward is a huge accomplishment and needs to be remembered. The more steps forward the closer you get to become that fully functional human-being. All because you took a hard time of life and used it to prove to yourself that YOU ARE WORTH THE EFFORT!

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